“Dear Edie,
I am intimidated by Latina women. I am just a white girl going to the Latin clubs in [city], and I feel like (sometimes) the Latina women are thinking “who does that girl think she is?!”
– Intimidated”
Dear Intimidated,
This is just in your head. Number one, you don’t have any IDEA what they’re thinking, and number two, who really cares? Stop watching them, and focus on improving YOURSELF. If you cared about what every person thought of you, you would go NUTS trying to accommodate everyone and you would look like an idiot doing it. Don’t expect ANYBODY (not just Latina women) to be very friendly at first until you purposely go out of your way to get to know them, and be nice to them.
Smile, introduce yourself, compliment them on their outfits and dancing abilities, ask their advice, and voila! Friend for life. Works like a charm. Go out of your way to be nice. Even if they’re not nice back to you, be nice anyway. Never give any Salsera an excuse to not like nor appreciate you. You’re all there to dance, so just dance.
Sometimes I get aggravated when people want to talk to me at a club. Number one, the music is so loud I can’t hear them, and number 2, I didn’t go there to talk, I go to dance and get my aerobics in! Sometimes I find myself politely cutting off the conversation when a good song comes on!! I feel bad, but the music just takes me away, and I can’t help it!
It’s like I “see you”, but I don’t have anything to “SAY” to you. NOW LET’S JUST GO DANCE!!!
Happy Dancing!
– Edie, The Salsa FREAK!!
Edie The Salsa FREAK!! Website
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